All posts tagged: success

On Treating Yo Self

Ever since Tom and Donna introduced me to the concept of “treat yo self” (which, for anyone who isn’t aware, is the anthem), I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. While the Parks & Rec gang focused on material things like buying clothes and fragrances, ultimately what the whole “treat yourself” philosophy means to me is very simply: be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself is much more than just letting yourself eat a cupcake – it’s about offering yourself the sort of kindness that you would unquestionably give to your best friend even when she’s at the lowest of times. It’s very easy to hold yourself to certain standards of being, whether that means standards of intelligence or creativity or beauty or popularity. But what often happens is that these standards are very difficult to attain and maintain, or there are other people out there better at it than you are, and suddenly these little monsters of self-doubt, fear-of-failure and embarrassment creep their way into your mind. The goal then, is …

On Success

The other day, my friend Maddie and I began a philosophical discussion about what constitutes being successful in life. We realised that, growing up, we’d been seriously misinformed about what being successful actually entails. As kids, we grew up learning about the first man on the moon and the fastest man in the world, but we never heard about the man who designed Neil Armstrong’s helmet so his head wouldn’t explode, or the man who first encouraged Usain Bolt to run. And so our perceptions of what constitutes ‘success’ slowly became interchangeable with what constitutes ‘fame’. It thus became very important to me that I redefine success; I needed to turn ‘success’ into something that was not synonymous with exceptionalism or celebritism. Because at the end of the day, success shouldn’t be something that can be measured by the amount of money you earn or the number of people who buy your work. Success is a feeling. And it’s a feeling I intend to become familiar with. Today, I decided to actively redefine success in three very important ways. …